Sarah's story
(Sorry to trouble you ...) The Business School Address
"Welcome, alla you to the Trusk-Mump Business School. And congradulations! 'Cuz, y' know what, alla you are gonna be millionnaires, and summa you are gonna be billionnaires! And lemme tell ya that whatever you learn here'll serve you also if you change your mind and wanna go into advertising or politics some day, botha which could help your business too, lemme tell ya.
"So, let's get started by establishing this very important basic point: the first thing you gotta learn is to lie. Not just ta wanna do it but to do it well. That is the fundamental technique in every profitable area today.
"Lemme give you a case in point. A brilliant case. Last week President Trump met Ukrainian dictator Zelensky at the White House. He gave him the facts for which Zelensky should be saying thank you. Now Zelensky did say thank you, several times, but President Trump's staff repeatedly interrupted Zelensky telling him to just say thank you. That is one of the sub-techniques of lying: lying by implication, regardless of anything that has already gone before. Your listeners will forget what's gone before and conclude that it did not happen, but that it should have. Not to mention that interruption, which is another very basic technique, prevents your opponent, if it's continuous, from getting to say anything.
"In fact every time Zelensky opened his mouth, whatever he was trying to say was covered by interruptions from President Trump and his staff, who used still another essential technique: repetition. If you don't have many accurate facts, just keep repeating the stuff you've said before, even if it's already been contradicted.
"But let's get back to the importance and the strategic effect of lying. The facts which President Trump put forth were in fact a gross exaggeration, but because his followers implicitly believe everything President Trump says, that didn' make any difference. Excuse me, somebody has a question? Um, where's the question? Oh, OK, you're so dark I didn't see you there. So?"
"Yes, sir, I wanted to know what happens if you're called out on a lie? Isn't it sort of risky?"
"No. It is not! And the story I'm telling you will prove my point. President Macron of France contradicted President Trump in his meeting with him, on the very points that President Trump made to Zelensky, the one of the three hundred and fifty billion dollars of aid he said the US gave to Ukraine, which in fact was only 114 billion, saying that the US gave aid whereas the Europeans were going to get all of theirs back, and Prime Minister Starmer of Britain also disagreed. But President Trump royally passed right over this, and said the same thing all over again. I don't have to tell you who the President's followers are gonna believe. And belief is everything. Now lemme show you why this is so important.
"Some stupid presentator on MSNBC tried to say that President Trump was 'humiliated' by these contradictions. But he was not! That is the point! You are humiliated when you bow your head and show shame. President Trump did not show shame! He simply carried on! And if you can do that, gentlemen, you can—sorry? Oh, there's women in this promotion? Well, awright, ladies, though I doubt you could carry this sort of thing off so well as President Trump, but as I said, if you can carry your lies off like this, you will win every time.
"You gotta follow the Russians. They're masters at this. They're saying that that "pig" Zelensky was crushed by President Trump and his staff, and that he had got what he deserved. That Zelensky dared to walk out on the President of the United States was not seen as a slap in the face to President Trump, no, if you say that Zelensky was humiliated, you've turned the situation around. And anybody who was paying attention in 2022 knows that it was the Russians who first attacked Ukraine. But they're re-writing the story, and President Trump has got on the band-wagon, and pretty soon the Americans are all gonna believe Ukraine started it and doesn't want peace and doesn't deserve to be part of the negotiations, that's what they're saying and just wait and see if it doesn't work. Lemme tell you— Er, another question?"
"Yes, sir, isn't it immoral to lie? I thought truth was one of the virtues."
"Young man—oh, 'scuse me you're a female—young lady, I am sorry to trouble your convictions, but that idea is outta date and outta context in the business world, just like in advertising or politics. I think you should go back to your kitchen. And now, as I was saying, if you know how to lie you can run the world. And if you don't know how to lie and lie well, you'll be the loser you deserve to be. You'll be humiliated."
Enthusiastic applause.
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Patrice's story
It began like this. I was in my seat, my bag neatly stowed beneath the seat in front of me.
My book was resting on my lap along with my sweater. I was doing my best to breathe deeply to remain calm. Flying was a nightmare, flying these days was a ring in Dante’s hell. I closed my eyes working on magically making my seat companion either miss the flight or be a slender 20 something with AirPods and a clear desire to sleep off her night before. I even crossed my fingers beneath my sweater.
The plane filled and there was the usual controlled mayhem, people looking for their seats, exclaiming with irritation, talking to people in front or behind them, haggling with strangers over changes, but so far nothing too unbearable - no one demanding a window seat or an aisle or that some poor soul give up their set so that they could sit with their husband, girlfriend, child, waning mother, and on and on and on. I was feeling hopeful.
Excuse me, are you sure you are in the right seat? A man’s voice. I turned to look at him, already resenting him because I had to crane my neck to see him. He looked pleasant enough though perhaps a bit of a “bro”. A t-shirt with some logo I didn’t recognize underneath an open button up, jeans.
Yes, I’m sure. I should smile but it seemed too much.
He looked down at his ticket, Oh, really - how sure? I always book the window seat. He continued to stand as if waiting for something.
I took my boarding pass out of my book showing him the seat number. I pointed up at the seat map on the overhead rail then settled back into my seat. The one I chose, the one I paid extra for, the one I was comfortable in. He continued to stand for a moment then opened the overhead bin and with a great deal of huffing stuffed his carry-on, and messenger bag, and denim jacket into the compartment. Finally he sat. Lifting up the armrest he dug around until he found one end of his seat belt and clasped himself in. He did not return the armrest to its original position so I did. Without looking at him I pushed it down between us feeling like this was the beginning of a long flight. He looked at me then turned away. It looked as if the plane was very nearly boarded.
He made himself comfortable, spread his legs, one foot in the well in front of my seat. His arm resting fully on the armrest, elbow digging into my side. I wiggled a bit to let him know I was there. Placed my foot firmly on his and repositioned myself in my seat using my feet for balance. He looked at me quickly again then pulled his foot out from beneath mine and sat still for a moment.
I smiled - I don’t want to trouble you but stay in your seat please.
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Geraldine's story
I DON’T WANT TO TROUBLE YOU
Christine was making her best to try and catch the metro as she had heard it was entering the station. Well, she thought, I'm over’80 now and can’t run as I could fourty years ago….But I must try catching it as I am already really late to honor my rendez-vous at the dentist who always makes a rude remark when we get there a few minutes overdue.
I made it, and of course, it was packed as usual and having to go 18 stations away, I knew it would be a 40 minute trip ! I uisually don’t mind standing for one or two stations, but not that far.
So I struggled to reach to the place where there’s this little pictogram featuring me with a bent back and a stick, under the notice « priority ». There were bent heads with or without « hoods » all staring at this small screen , with agile fingers tapping !
As I approached, I very timidly said : « I don’t want to trouble you, but could one of you let me sit in this place reserved to us, the elderly ? ». No ans<wer ! As I looked a little closer I saw they all had these little earplugs. Was this a group of « death » young people ?
I decided to try again ! A little louder ! « Please, I don’t want to trouble you but….. ». None of the sitting youngsters moved, but a middle-aged rather handsome man stood in front of them and drew their attention : « Hey ! You mob ! Can’t you see this old woman needs a seat ! »
3 heads lifted, looked angry, and the young man with a black hood took out his earplugs and said :
« What’s the matter ! Do you want a punch in the face ? »
The man took his arm to make him stand up, he resisted with force, then the two other hoods raised : there was another guy with dark glasses and a young girl who couldn’t have been older that 16.
They looked at the handsome man trying to help me get a seat. By this time everybody was looking, as a riot had started.
« Who do you think you are ? » to push us like this ?
- Well ? can’t you see you are seated in a place reserved for invalid or elderly people ?
- « We don’t care ! They shouldn’t take the metro at peak time » Who do they think they are ?
The handsome man had, by now, been joined by some other passengers who decided all this was enough ! As the metro stopped, they got hold of the 3 youngsters and shoved them off the metro onto the platform. And made sure they didn’t get on again.
This, of course, opened a wide and loud conversation about how a generation had missed bringing up their children as being part of a community and acknowledging « others » existed, could be interesting to talk to, could be in need of some confort or were just like their grand’parents.
Also, how these electronic devices or cellular phones completely isolated them from anyone of any other generation : children, young, middle-aged or older people. They were only involved with their sibblings, the reseau sociaux or the games they played together.
The 15 stations left seemed very short as there was this unusual discussion going on, where, for once, people lifted their heads up and talked to each other, unaware of the usual social distance and indifference generaly « de mise » in public places.
At her age and in her condition, Christine made the right decision : she would always start a sentence «by « I don’t want to trouble you » when getting on a public transport device : ferry, bus, metro, train, whatever. So interresting and so much to learn about human behaviour!
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Annemarie's story
About seven years ago I was asked by the organiser of our patchwork club if I had any ideas re a celebration for Meg's eightieth birthday. She was the universally loved Englishwoman in this French club. They knew her passion was gardening, patchwork and cooking.
"Mais oui, bien sûr," i replied. "Let's have a picnic in the Chateau Lantilly garden. The countess has always been very accommodating when I wanted to bring guests to the garden, I'm sure she will agree. We can all contribute towards cake, crémante etc." "Quelle bonne idée, " they chorused and, yes, my suggestion had been in French, they had understood.
However, the next day they decided 'quelle problème' to bring 21 chairs, the cake, the glasses etc etc. It had never occurred to me that a picnic involved more than rugs on grass, bottoms on rugs. 'So we thought the salle polyvalente in Flee - there were tables and chairs there.' I refrained from adding 'but no flowers, fresh air or views.' Two days later,
"Flee was too expensive to hire but we've had a much better idea," they said.
"Ooh, c'est quoi?" I asked .
'We'll have it here in the patchwork room. There are tables, chairs and what's more we can wash up afterwards." I was hugely disappointed; yes, we had a good time celebrating our friend's 80th, chairs to spare, sitting were we sat in the same places every Wednesday, discussing in detail each person's recipe. I promised myself not to suggest anything to do with French celebrations/ meals or food again...
...until a month ago. We had sorely missed a member of my English conversation class after her husband had had a life-threatening fall from the mezzanine in their home. She had spent almost an entire year backwards and forwards to Dijon, not seeing friends, unable to participate in her many outside interests and barely two days a week at home to see to matters there. When her husband eventually came home three months ago she was still tied to the house in case he fell headlong from his wheelchair as had happened once. Unable to do anything for himself she was on the go all day.
One member of the class mentioned it was her 86th birthday in a weeks time, exactly one year after his fall. "Any suggestions, anyone?" Yes, in English - they are wonderful students!
That's when I forgot my promise.
"She has no family so why don't we make a meal and take it as a surprise on the day of her birthday."
"We'll make it teatime and each take a cake and we can celebrate with her," they suggested.
'Hmm,' I thought, 'there's only one chair in the room, the rest of the space taken up with a huge hospital bed, wheel chair, walking frame and what will the two of them do with enough cake to last a month?'
The following day I WhatsApp-ed the group explaining how difficult it would be.. no chairs!.. and perhaps too many people for someone recovering from such an accident. I suggested the three course meal (my friend does not enjoy cooking), a centre piece of flowers/candle, some champagne; in this way the couple could enjoy a celebration together for the first time in over a year. The class could bring the prepared items to conversation to put in our fridge and the following day either John or I could deliver it in in the morning.
"Bonne idée, " said Michel, " je vais faire un tiramisu."
This was going well, each of us doing our part until...
... quite late that evening I received a worried phone call from Michel.
" I don't want to trouble you, je ne veux pas te déranger si tard, " he spoke in Franglais, "but si je fais le tiramisu Wednesday matin et mettre le chocolat au-dessus it will be a...une catastrophe... ze chocolat va disparaître ...une vraie catastrophe, " his voice raised in culinary anguish.
I'm afraid I could hardly stop laughing to myself - the French and their cuisine!
" I have a suggestion, Michel."
" She loves tiramisu so it's a shame not to make it. Leave the chocolate out and put it in a small container with instructions to sprinkle it on just before they eat."
" OK, d'accord, " Michel said hesitatingly. I was well aware of his lack of confidence in this English woman's advice re cooking.
Our friend celebrated with her husband the surprise romantic meal à deux from her conversation friends. She enjoyed sprinkling chocolate on the perfect tiramisu and Mylène had added a small jar of extra spice to sprinkle on the main dish - 'parce que Pascal a perdu son sens de goût.'
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Jackie's story
I was in London this past week. My son lives in a pretty residential part of south London. It was very warm and Spring like with daffodils sprouting up everywhere and people in T shirts and shorts. I was going along the street looking at everything around me and came across a lady with a walking frame - she was stuck and looking around her in despair desperately trying to pull on the wheel of her walking frame from the slats of the gutter –she was struggling to move it. Although I was quite a way away from her I could see her getting more and more frustrated by this and as I approached I heard her whisper
“could I trouble you to help me”… no trouble I replied and helped her out of her predicament. I wondered about this word “trouble” as it’s asking for help and could be a sign of weakness implying a greater burden - which of course it isn’t.
If I personally were to ask someone for help I would phrase it differently I would say “ I'm sorry to trouble you: sorry to inconvenience you, , sorry to bother you , sorry to impose, sorry to create difficulties, sorry to disturb, sorry to put you out sorry to hassle, incommode and the list goes on .
In a big city you become wary of people and hesitate to ask a complete stranger to help. I had three heartfelt experiences that were very meaningful. On the tube a young man got up the instant I got on the tube – I was hanging on to the overhead strap and he stood up and offered me his seat. Of course I was grateful and thanked him for his trouble – no trouble at all Mam he said – I could see you were tired. Another time an older man gave me his seat. I couldn’t thank him enough as the day had been exhausting one way or another. Another time a young girl this time stood for me and again I was so happy to sit down.
No trouble she said as she happily stood for the next 6 stops before getting off.
Well the world works in a funny way on one hand I was horrified that I looked old enough to stand up for but on the other hand if no one had stood up I’d have been disappointed in the human race. You cannot win.________________________________________________
Paula's story
Raquel sat at a table in the window of a café on the Ile Saint-Louis in Paris, nursing a broken heart along with her chocolat chaud. She had bet on love, had flown across the ocean from her home in the farm lands of Iowa, to be with Jean-Jacques. And now, what? She was alone. It was her choice. Yet it would be understating it to say that Jean-Jacques on his home turf of France turned out to be very different from the Jean-Jacques she met and fell in love with at university in America.
Raquel was bewildered, hurt, uncertain as to her next move, determined to be strong, wary of flying home with her tail tucked between her legs, resolved to staying in Paris and making a go of it on her own. After all, Paris had always been a dream of hers. Had she used Jean-Jacques to get here? Had it really been love? But the heartache, it was so strong. She felt like she could barely breathe. How could she have misjudged someone so?
She looked up in her misery and noticed for the first time an elderly man sitting across the room, a cup of coffee and a half-eaten croissant on the table before him, engrossed in a book. The title was in English, and it was her favorite book: To Kill a Mockingbird.
Raquel’s breath caught. She was feeling so far from home, so wretched. Was this some kind of sign? She stood and walked to the man’s table.
“I don’t want to trouble you, but I noticed that you are reading my favorite book, ever,” she said to the man. “Would you mind if I sat down, just for a moment?”
The old man looked up at Raquel, smiled, and replied in English with a strong French accent, “Of course, my dear. I’d love a bit of company. I am just at the part where Jem gets into a spot of trouble, and even though I have read this several times, I could still use a little break.”
He rose from the table, stretched out his hand to clasp hers, and said, “Thierry. Enchanté.” She felt his rough, warm fingers around her own, and said, “Raquel. Merci.”
He ordered another coffee for himself, and another chocolat chaud for Raquel, and the two of them spent the next hour talking about books. Travel. Life. Love. The hour passed quickly, and before she knew it, Raquel’s new friend had gathered his book, coat and scarf to go.
As he stood up, she plucked a novel from her bag and held it out to him. “Here,” she said. “My second favorite book: A Gentleman in Moscow. May I give it to you?”
The man bowed, and with a hint of tears in his eyes, he accepted her gift, tucking it under his arm alongside Mockingbird. “I’m honored,” he whispered. “Shall we meet here again tomorrow morning?”
As he walked to the counter, paid his bill, and left the café, Raquel was overcome with a completely new and unexpected emotion: Hope.
She was reminded of the random wonders of life, how opening up to a new place meant opening your heart to new people. People who could become important in your life, for many reasons and in many ways. Yes, she had had her heart shattered by a man she thought she knew and loved. But by taking that risk, she had broken open something else: possibility. And now here was the universe, pointing to her reward.
She turned back to the window and watched the old man amble down the street. She was filled with gratitude, for the warm welcome of a stranger, for the unforeseen connection, for the possibility of a new friend. Maybe a life in Paris was possible, after all.
It had all started because she said she didn’t want to trouble him. And his simple generosity and kindness had eased her own.
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K's story
“I don’t want to trouble you, but…”
The sun hung low in the sky, casting golden light over the Johnson family's backyard. Billy, a bright-eyed ten-year-old, laughed as he tossed a rubber ball across the lush green lawn. His four loyal dogs—Max, a golden retriever; Daisy, a border collie; Rocky, a muscular Rottweiler; and Pippin, a small but feisty Jack Russell—chased after it, their tails wagging furiously.
Just as Max pounced on the ball, a shadow flickered at the edge of the yard. Pippin’s ears perked up first, his keen nose twitching. Before he could bark a warning, a pair of rough hands grabbed Billy from behind. A muffled cry escaped Billy’s lips as a man dressed in dark clothes hoisted him into a van idling at the curb. The dogs sprang into action, but the van’s tires screeched as it sped away.
Daisy let out a piercing howl. “They took Billy!”
Max growled. “We have to get him back.”
“But how?” Rocky rumbled, his deep voice laced with worry. “We’re just dogs.”
Pippin’s small body trembled, but his eyes were full of determination. “We’re not just dogs. We’re Billy’s family.”
Max took charge. “We need a plan.” He sniffed the ground where the van had been. “They left a scent trail. We follow it.”
The dogs raced down the sidewalk, noses to the ground. They weaved through backyards and darted across streets, narrowly avoiding honking cars. The scent led them to an old warehouse on the outskirts of town.
Daisy peered through a crack in the door. Inside, Billy was tied to a chair, his eyes wide with fear. Two men stood near him, arguing.
“I don’t want to trouble you, but kidnapping a kid? That’s way more serious than I signed up for,” one of the men muttered.
The other man, taller and meaner-looking, scoffed. “Relax. His parents will pay, and then we let him go.”
Outside, the dogs huddled together.
“We have to get inside,” Rocky said.
Pippin’s tail wagged. “I’m small enough to squeeze through the vent up there.”
Max nodded. “Good. Get inside and untie Billy.”
While Pippin slipped in through the vent, Max, Daisy, and Rocky crept around the building. Pippin landed softly on a stack of crates and made his way to Billy.
“Pippin!” Billy whispered. “You came!”
The little dog chewed at the ropes binding Billy’s hands. Outside, Max barked loudly, drawing the men’s attention.
“What was that?”
“I’ll check.” The taller man grabbed a flashlight and headed for the door.
Rocky sprang into action, charging at him just as he stepped outside. The man stumbled, dropping his flashlight. Daisy dashed inside and bit the second man’s pant leg, making him yelp. Max and Rocky pinned down the first man, growling menacingly.
Meanwhile, Pippin had freed Billy’s hands. The boy untied his feet and grabbed a nearby wooden plank. When the second man tried to shake Daisy off, Billy swung the plank, knocking him to the floor.
The men groaned, tangled in ropes and surrounded by four fierce dogs. Billy hugged each of them. “You saved me!”
Minutes later, the police arrived, alerted by a neighbor who had seen the commotion. The kidnappers were arrested, and Billy’s parents came running, tears in their eyes. “You’re safe!” his mother cried, hugging him tightly.
Billy grinned, ruffling Max’s fur. “Thanks to my best friends.”
The four dogs stood proudly, tails wagging. They might have been “just dogs,” but tonight they were heroes.
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